| Tell me if you relate – you have so much going on and yet underneath it all, you feel lonely. Like you’re going through the motions and for the most I’ve been there. I never felt like I belonged. I was “too much” of the wrong things – too intense, too needy, too serious, too high maintenance… Or not enough of the right ones – not fun enough, not spontaneous enough, not skinny enough, not important enough… So It became easier to isolate. But then food became my best friend. If you’ve ever been there, or feel there now then you might find this interesting: A recent study of 20,000 people revealed that one out of two Americans feels lonely. Lonely has literally become an epidemic. It’s the paradox of the 21st century: We have more ways to connect with each other than ever, and yet the thing we’re starving for is in short supply: A deep sense of authentic connection and belonging. This is the whole reason I started the Freedom Talks Monthly Gatherings for Women That they could be in a room full of people and feel totally alone. Or that they had a great life with so much to be grateful for, by that gnawing feeling of not belonging here never left. Or that, like me, food was their best friend. That’s why, in last weeks launch of Freedom Talks San Diego, the theme of our entire gathering was on The Alchemy of Belonging and the 3 elements you need in order to have a deep sense of belonging. I included some notes about some of what we discussed below. If you want to find out more about Freedom Talks Gatherings For Women and join the next one or start one in your area, check out this short video: |
| Here’s some of what we discussed in the last Freedom Talks Gathering… The 3 Key Elements Of Belonging And How To Recognize And Cultivate Them 1. Community – Belonging with Others* How To Recognize And Cultivate It: – Look for a group that embraces all of you – where you can just be yourself; totally authentic and real – Make sure it has an element of authentic relating and meaningful connection – where you get to go beyond surface conversation and you get to feel safe being vocal, vulnerable and visible – What makes a group of people truly become a tribe is when you are united for a common reason or purpose that calls you forward into a more * If you struggle in this area, you’ll often feel like a perpetual outsider – different – like you don’t belong. You may prefer being a lone wolf or prefer to be by yourself but you also may be avoiding intimacy, authentic connection 2. Connection with Something Bigger – Belonging to the Whole** How To Recognize And Cultivate It: – Feels like you’re an intrinsic part of the whole – a unique light – containing a valuable piece of the cosmic puzzle that only you can provide – Gives you a sense that you are safe and protected and allows you to trust that you have what you need and that you’re going to be ok no matter what – Gives you a feeling of having a higher purpose, something to contribute to takes you out of yourself **If you struggle in this area, you’ll often 3. Comfort In Your Skin – Belonging Inside of Yourself*** How To Recognize And Cultivate It: – Feels safe inside – like you can take a breath, relax and be present. – Has you out of your head and connected in your body. – Gives you the courage and confidence to be more authentic, open, intimate and vulnerable with others, – Allows you to keep centered and grounded and not get thrown off or caught up in ***If you struggle in this area, you’ll typically feel like you’re always up in your head – obsessing about something or trying to figure out what to do. It can have you feeling anxious, overwhelmed or full of doubt. You may get neck and shoulder tension or have chronic pain. You may obsess about or judge your body, but you are rarely in it. This can have you feeling perpetually alone because not being in your body means not being connected to your core truth or your body’s wisdom. Living outside your core truth and body’s wisdom will keep you feeling like an outsider – not just with others, but also from yourself. Out of these 3 Elements of Belonging, which do you feel you’re strongest in and which is your biggest area of growth? Hit reply and let me know – I’d love to hear from you. In P.s. let’s do this together. <3 Do you want more authentic connection with other women as you deepen in your own spirituality and freedom? Then come and join for FREE! Click Here. |
