Confession…my energy was leaking so badly this week it was like an energetic oil spill – and I didn’t even KNOW it!

Until I had a conversation with a mentor who pointed out how I’d been sapping my energy and hijacking my peace of mind by keeping someone in my life who I really needed to part ways with.

That realization was a game changer. And the moment I took action to usher that person out of my life, I instantly felt a rush of energy. It was so empowering.

Which got me thinking about you.

We all have energy leaks in our lives – ways that we’re “hemorrhaging” power to external influences – people, money, attention, accolades..

Like the attachment of wanting everyone to like you…

Or the cord of working at a job you don’t love…

Or the hook of the chips or chocolate you can’t put down…

Which is why, this week, I went live on Facebook sharing the Top 5 Energy Leaks That Steal Your Freedom, and how to stop them.

You can watch the whole video in the Congruence Collective Facebook Group by clicking here.

OR, if you’re not in our group already, COME JOIN US by clicking here ==> http://liveyourlight.today.

Hemorrhaging power is like keeping your car running while pumping gas.

You already instinctively know not to do this when it comes to your car. It doesn’t make sense to fill it up while its emptying out at the same time.

But, when it comes to our own lives…we’re perpetually “filling up” – seeking love, fulfillment, purpose, meaning, happiness…

While at the same time, emptying all of it out.

Over-giving… martyring… people pleasing… proving… trying to be perfect…

No wonder most of us wind up in addiction patterns!

Hemorrhaging power makes you exhausted, irritated and resentful, and this becomes the exact recipe that can make a bag of chips, batch of brownies or entire bottle of wine sound awful nice.

If you suspect you might be hemorrhaging power or leaking your vital life force energy, click here to watch The Top 5 Energy Leaks And How To Stop Them Video in The Congruence Collective Facebook Group.

Then hit reply to this email and let me know which of the 5 Top Energy Leaks you’re going to clean up in your life this week!

In dedication of all of you,

P.s. We’re in this together 😉

P.p.s. If one of your big energy leaks is with your relationship with food, make sure to check your inbox NEXT WEDNESDAY for an announcement from me that can help you get on the path of lasting freedom. ♥

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© Debbie Lichter, 2019

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Do you keep getting stuck in the same sabotage pattern? Playing small…holding back…people pleasing…eating when you’re not hungry…getting stuck in social media….isolating…

It can be so frustrating when you know you’re here to shine your light – and you feel so close to being there – but something keeps holding you back…

…You’re ready to leave your job and go live your purpose, but then the security lures you so you stay on…

…You want to put yourself out there and be more social, but instead you grab a bag of chips, make for the couch and binge watch the next Netflix series.

…You’re finally sitting down for some real self care, but as soon as you get still, your mind races with all the things you urgently need to do NOW, so within minutes you’re back in your endless to-do list…

…You’re about to embark on your path of freedom from food (or any addiction), but all of a sudden your work commitments 10x, you get a health scare, your body gets strangely exhausted and so you just figure you’ll wait until things slow down…

What gives?

It’s easy to interpret these sabotage patterns as signs that you’re never gonna “get there.”

Or that something about you is just different and lacking.

Or that things will never change.

But what if the exact opposite is true?

What if your sabotage pattern is actually a sign that you’re on the brink of a breakthrough!!!

Here’s what’s true.

As much as we want to believe that our biggest breakthroughs happen when we are at the top of our game, checking off all the boxes, doing things perfectly and feeling great, the real fact is that breakthroughs happen when you’re deep in your “stuff.”

It’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. And it can have you feeling lost, angry, confused and misunderstood.

That’s what makes it a breakthrough.

Because you are so “in it” that you literally need something to “break” “through” the delusions that you’re living in so you can catapult into a new level of awareness, clarity and direction.

If you suspect you might be in that place now, in your “stuff” and feeling lost, angry, confused or misunderstood, here’s what you want to do:

• Acknowledge it. Recognize what you being in “your stuff” looks like. For each one of us it’s slightly different, and yet there are some common patterns. I made a video for you that has a list of the Top 10 Most Common Resistance Patterns to Change==> Click here and FFWD to min 03:45 to discover all 10
• Reframe it. After you recognize that you’re in a resistance pattern, it’s time to see it for what it truly is. Not a sign that you’re never gonna get this. But rather a sign that you’re ready for a massive change!!!! You’re right there! You’re just a distinction or two away from your next big breakthrough. This is the time to reach out, ask for help and get support in moving beyond your block. The sabotage shows up because there is just one small part of you still clutching to your current reality, wanting to feel safe. If you can love this part and drop your judgment you’ll come to realize that your sabotage is simply a signpost that you’re stepping into something way bigger – and this is amazing!!
• Act in spite of it. This step is perhaps the most confronting and challenging. We can acknowledge our resistance and reframe it all we want, but the real breakthrough happens when we take bold aligned action in spite of it! Taking bold aligned action in spite of your resistance means dancing with discomfort and finding your new footing. It’s not caving into the convenient quick fix in the moment, and instead, staying steadfast to the deeper, more authentic desire in your heart. This step takes a new kind of stamina, a “spiritual stamina,” as my mentor Carolyn Myss would call it. And in my experience, it is a skill we can all acquire so that it becomes our new default.

Last weekend I got to witness every woman at the Freedom Embodied Academy Retreat applying this kind of “spiritual stamina,” as she launched beyond her blocks, breaking through to new levels of freedom, connection, authenticity and sense of belonging. It was magical to witness. Click here to hear what one of the ladies had to say about it.

So tell me Paula, now that you know your sabotage patterns are a sign you’re ready for a BIG change, what big change are you looking to make in your life? Hit reply and let me know 🙂

P.s. Speaking of BIG change…if getting free from food addiction is the breakthrough you’re most looking to have right now, stay tuned for some BIG announcements coming to your inbox in the next couple of weeks about how to have just that. ♥

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© Debbie Lichter, 2018

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When’s the last time you put on a happy face hiding how you were really feeling? Or said “Yes!” when you really wanted to say, “NO!” Or held back instead of speaking up?

If you’ve done any of these things in the last couple days, you’re not alone. Most of us have developed a way of living that’s partly authentic, partly inauthentic.

It’s a survival impulse.

Think about it. In caveman times, if you were exiled from the tribe, left to handle the dangers of living in the wild on your own, (animals, the elements, etc), the chances are pretty good that you would die.

So, in order to ensure we stay alive, many of us have developed a way of being that ensures we don’t get rejected, cast out and left alone – like people pleasing, or wanting everyone to like you or over-giving at the detriment of your own self care.

And while this strategy may work to an extent, it comes at a major cost.

It’s exhausting

It hemorrhages your life force

It leads to resentment

It adversely affects your health (contributing things like inflammation and thyroid issues)

And, it actually drives you to addiction patterns.

Here’s how that works.

When we smile through our melancholy, or people please without getting our needs met or silence the emotions arising from within, we create internal incongruence.

Incongruence is when your head, heart and gut are not all on the same page, and so you act out of alignment with your authentic self.

Like when you get a gut instinct to go do something, (leave your job, start a business, put yourself out there, help others, etc).

If you’re living congruently, then you would follow through with it.

But if you’re living incongruently, then your head might get in the way thinking…

You can’t do that!

You’re not walking your talk!

You’ll be judged!

What if you fail!

You’ll be rejected!!”

And so you don’t.

These are just some examples of what living incongruently can look like. The problem with incongruence, is that operating out of alignment with your core truth doesn’t feel good inside.

In fact, it creates internal discomfort and dis-ease.

You get irritated, annoyed, antsy, anxious, easily upset, resentful, tense, overly sensitive, insecure or just not feeling ok without knowing why.

⇒ Here’s the piece that’s so important to get with all this:

The discomfort and “dis-ease” that comes from internal incongruence drives us for a sense of ease and comfort – which we find in addictions.

Food, wine, busyness, sex, love, shopping, screen time…

This is why the #1 secret to being free from any addiction is to become congruent and totally aligned with our authentic selves.

So how do we get back to our authentic selves?

Makes sense right? Ok, so how do we actually do that? Here’s 3 things that will get you on your way:

1. Trust your gut.

How many times have you had a hunch about something and not followed it then wanted to kick yourself afterwards because your hunch was right? Probably more times than you can remember.

Imagine how empowering it would feel if you actually followed that gut guidance. How that might it impact your confidence and ability to trust yourself in making healthy choices.

⇒ Here’s a simple way to detect your gut intuition: Your gut instinct is very visceral. It speaks to you in “hunches.” Or you’ll have a “sense” about something that you can’t otherwise explain.

Your gut guidance DOESN’T speak to you in your head. So if you notice yourself up in your head, then chances are you have just gone back into an incongruent pattern and disconnected with your core truth.

2. Honor your feelings.

Let’s face it, it’s not always fun to sit with uncomfortable emotions. I used to think emotions were messy, unprofessional and weak. I took great pride in being able to stuff them and not let them get in the way of my day. (But I was at the time also binging on brownies at night so I clearly had lots to learn about feeling feelings).

Whether you avoid emotions or stuff them or ignore them all together, if you truly want to be authentic and free from addictions, then learning how to be with them is key.

⇒ A quick tip to help you is to let the feelings be there without trying to fix them or analyze them. Just stay in the feeling, without creating any story about why they are there. Let yourself feel it fully, and usually within a couple minutes (if you stay in the sensation of the feeling vs. the story about the feeling), the emotion will move on and out.

Remember, emotions are e-motions [energy + motion] so they want to move through you.

3. Speak your truth.

Even if you consider yourself pretty authentic already, often times we withhold, omit or straight out lie in order to avoid disappointment, conflict or rejection from others.

Or sometimes we don’t speak up because we don’t know if what we have to say is valuable or if anyone actually cares.

All of these reasons and more can have us buttoning up, holding back or speaking in half truths.

The problem with that is that even partial authenticity will still create an internal sense of discomfort and uneasiness that will eventually drive us to seek some ease and comfort which can take us back to addictions.

⇒ So if you’re set on being free, then here’s an important tip to help you speak up more authentically: Own what is yours.

Before speaking up to someone else, consider: What do I need to take responsibility for?

Taking responsibility for what is yours (your story, projections, fears, attachments) and NOT taking responsibility for what isn’t yours (their story), will allow you to honor your truth in a conversation while also honoring the other person you’re speaking with.

OK, LOTS to chew on this week. I want to know what of the things we talked about today felt the most relevant for where you’re at. Please hit reply and let me know, and in the meantime, sending you so much love.❤️

In dedication of all of you,

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© Debbie Lichter, 2018
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http://freefromfoodaddiction.com