I couldn’t stop eating and obsessing about my body…
On the outside, I looked like a well-adjusted woman. I was a high-achieving UCLA Suma Cum Laude grad, who had worked internationally for COSMOPOLITAN Magazine, creating campaigns for companies like Estee Lauder and Tommy Hilfiger, and had then become an expert in the health and fitness industry as a mind-body fitness coach, Pilates teacher and general manager of a health club. I looked like the picture of health.
But I was living a lie.
I was working 70hr weeks, I had lost all my friends, my relationship was on the rocks, I was using sleeping pills and stimulants to get through my day, my adrenals were tapped, I showed markers for an autoimmune disease, I had chronic pain, I constantly felt anxious and overwhelmed, I was so in my head I couldn’t be present with the people around me and I was completely obsessed with food and my body.
My world revolved around food: What I was going to eat, what I just ate, what I needed to do about the I just ate, if I was eating enough, if I was eating too much, what others were eating and if others were noticing what I was eating. It was exhausting. My food addiction was a full time job. And I was constantly putting in overtime.
As a perfectionist always trying to hack the secret to being skinny, I would make up weird food rules about what I could and couldn’t eat and when. I was constantly trying a new plan that would help me moderate or have better control. Typically I would restrict during the day–living off of espresso and almonds–and then come home at night, feeling depleted and exhausted, and overeat on whatever was in the house. It wouldn’t always be bad food. For the most part I ate really healthily. I just ate more than my body needed.
I would have a few good days of “being good” and sticking to a particular diet plan. And then a day would come and I would want to reward my good behavior or I’d just get a case of the “F”-its, and I’d be back in those sweet and savoy treats. I felt so out of control, like I was never able to get on top of things. All I wanted was to regain control and get a handle on things.
I just felt so much shame.
Here I was, a health and fitness expert with 20 years of experience, over a decade of therapy in me, and had spent years studying self help and personal development, but I couldn’t help myself.
I lost trust in myself and felt like such a failure.
It wasn’t until I got honest about my food addiction realized that trying to figure everything out on my own was keeping me stuck that I finally got the willingness to ask for help.
They say when the student is ready the teacher appears, and that’s how it was for me.
Shortly after I gave up doing it my way and got open to asking for help, I met my first spiritual mentor.
She showed me what I was missing that was keeping me stuck and how to get free from the things that were blocking me so I could be free.
I’ll never forget her words…
“Of course you’re not free. You’re trying to fix a problem you don’t fully understand with an incomplete solution!”
It leveled me but it was true.
Through her guidance I got the missing pieces and distinctions that led to my freedom from food and other addictions and from there I gained access to go even further – into new levels of freedom, joy, peace, connection and confidence.
Today, I live free from the obsession and constant food thoughts. I have a healthy relationship with food. Food doesn’t call to me. When I’m hungry, I enjoy it but I no longer use food to cope with life. The desire to binge or act out with food has literally just fallen away. I feel confident and I trust myself to make healthy choices. And best of all, because I’m not consumed with food any more, I’m present for the people in my life and my business and I get to help more people.
But my freedom hasn’t stopped with my relationship with food. Today I am intuitively guided in every area of my life – food, business, romance, finance, friendship – and this is what allows me to feel so calm, connected and comfortable in my skin, even when things around me aren’t going smoothly.
I cannot put into words how precious this is to me – to finally be able to just be me.
I call this next level freedom because it was and continues to be an experience of joy, connection and fulfillment beyond my wildest imagination.
I am eternally grateful for this gift, especially because I spent decades feeling anxious and alone – trying to manage everything, ashamed and embarrassed, not thinking anyone would get me.
Today it’s my joy and passion to help others who struggle in the same way I did have next level freedom too.
That’s why I created the Congruence Collective Community and mentorship programs like Freedom From Food Addiction and The Congruence Code – so that people who are struggling with food addiction, obsession, anxiety or any kind of self sabotaging pattern can get the clarity, community and guidance they need to live free, be authentic, and have the confidence to shine their light.
As the founder of Freedom From Food Addiction and The Congruence Code, Debbie Lichter has helped women worldwide for nearly a decade get free from food and other addictions, obsessions and self-sabotaging patterns so they can feel confident and be authentically all of themselves. As a freedom from food addiction expert and congruence coach, who worked for COSMOPOLITAN Magazine Internationally, Debbie navigated her own path to freedom from food and drug addiction, codependency, severe anxiety and self doubt, and today combines 20 years of experience in the health and fitness industry with her integrated system that helps women get free and stay free from all addictions, lose weight without obsessing, and feel comfortable and confident in their own skin. Debbie has conducted over 200 classes, workshops and trainings in the areas of addiction, spirituality and self care and is currently growing a global constellation of women who are living free from all addictions, shining their light and lighting up others.
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